Releasing Anger and Growing in Patience as a Parent
In this episode of Carpool Conversations, Amy and Sara sit down with author and mom of four, Amber Lia, to talk honestly about something many parents wrestle with but rarely say out loud — anger. Drawing from her new book, Untriggered: 60 Days of Transformation for Moms Who Struggle with Anger, Amber shares her own story with refreshing vulnerability and offers practical, grace-filled tools for the moments when frustration rises.
Together, they explore how anger shows up in parenting, recognizing the difference between righteous anger and destructive frustration, and what it looks like to grow in patience even on the hardest days. Amber unpacks simple, intentional strategies that help moms pause, reset, and respond with gentleness—reminding every parent that change is possible.
Whatever season you are in, this conversation will encourage you to breathe deeply, release shame, and take meaningful steps toward transformation.
About Amber Lia
Amber Lia is a former English teacher, has authored multiple bestselling books, including Food Triggers and Parenting Scripts.
In her popular book, Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses, Amber and coauthor Wendy Speake guide parents toward peaceful parenting.
She and her husband own a production company in Chattanooga, TN, and are parents to four boys ages 8 to 18.
A certified independent health coach, Amber helps clients looking to live life to the full! When she's not searching for Nerf darts around her house, you can find Amber writing to encourage families.
Timestamps | Releasing Anger & Growing in Patience as a Parent
0:00 – Welcome to Carpool Conversations
Introducing today’s conversation about navigating anger in parenting and finding hope in the middle of it.
01:30 – Introducing our Guest – Amber Lia
3:42 – The Sweet Spot of This Parenting Season
Amber shares what she is enjoying most about this current phase of parenting.
5:28 – The Story Behind Her Book
Amber vulnerably shares her personal experiences that led her to creating these resources for parents.
9:20 – The Holy Pause
The power of the pause to respond instead of react.
10:53 – You’re Not Alone in This
Responses from other parents and shared experiences that remind us we’re not alone in our struggles.
12:50 – Letting Go of Shame
Releasing the guilt that is tied to our anger.
14:12 – Practical Tips for Releasing our Anger
Amber shares tools from her own tool belt for managing our frustrations and growing in patience.
20:27 – When is Anger Justified?
A conversation about righteous anger versus destructive frustration and how to discern the difference in parenting.
25:41 – Encouragement for the Weary Mom
Encouragement for the mom who feels like she’s too far gone, has done too much damage, and feels guilty.
26:50 – Modeling Forgiveness
Why apologizing to our kids matters and how it teaches them about grace and reconciliation.
28:30 – Redemption Is Greater Than Generational Sin
There is no generational sin that is a match for the redemptive power of God
30:01 – Question of the Week:
When have you recently noticed that I was angry and how did it make you feel?
Links
Book: Untriggered: 60 Days of Transformation for Moms Who Struggle with Anger
Book: Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses
